The 50 Shades of Gray saga has undoubtedly generated a lot of interest and questioning surrounding sexual practices linked to domination.
Many people fear these sexual practices without ever having tried the experience!
You know your limits, you just have to respect them. No need to go to extremes.
“In our culture, society transmits that sexuality should not be punctuated by aggression, but rather by gentle caresses, tenderness and sensuality. However, for many, when a certain amount of consensual aggression enters the sexual relationship, the excitement goes up a notch. It's the surprise, the unexpected, a kind of loss of control that makes aggression pleasant. It’s like a middle finger to what sexuality has always dictated to us. »
- Véronique Larivière, sexologist
Sadomasochistic relationships are often considered to be abnormal, perverse, immoral... However, they allow you to escape from routine, to take desire up a notch and to develop a wonderful bond within a couple or between partners. We must not forget the romantic dimension, we must rather see it as a “game”, a sexual relationship which takes place in the form of a scenario, with a dominant and a dominated.
So… are you dominant or dominated?
There are no right or wrong answers, you can be one, the other or... both!
Dominant :
You are the initiator, you take the lead during your sexual relations. You like to try new things, impose your law, give orders... in short, you like to test your partner's abilities and limits.
Dominated:
You adopt an attitude of “passivity” during your sexual relations. You show yourself to be obedient to the desires of your partner. You like to have as few responsibilities as possible, in order to let go more easily. In short, you agree not to control everything, in order to experience a (complete and enjoyable) feeling of abandonment.
The role of each person is not definitive. As in all sexual games, you have to let yourself go and try, before you know what you like. Switching roles can be very exciting, depending on the mood of the moment!
BDSM accessories are often associated with this practice. They can help you assume your role, bring the story to life, and stimulate people who don't know their bodies.
Attention ! Respect and trust are essential in this type of practice. Respect your limits and your partner's limits. Be aware that domination can involve certain risks, both physically and psychologically. No matter your role, you always have full control over what works for you and what doesn't.
