They say that fantasies are an open book about ourselves. Some remain buried in the depths of our imagination, while others take shape and eventually become reality. Some people feel guilty about having fantasies. However, there is no need to be so hard on yourself. On the contrary, fantasies can help improve certain minor imperfections in our relationship with sexuality. They allow us to get to know ourselves better and better understand our desires. Contrary to what one might think, not all fantasies are steamy and highly erotic. Some can be more tender and sensual. Everyone is free to dream about them!

Some characteristics are common to men and women when it comes to fantasies. In fact, they help increase sexual desire and reach orgasm more quickly. Among the most common fantasies for couples are:

Having sex in an unusual place, along with the adrenaline rush that comes from fearing being caught and breaking a taboo, is generally one of the most popular fantasies among people of all genders.

Having sex with a stranger. Not because the couple's relationship is strained, but because the emotion and excitement sparked by the idea of having sex with an unknown person can be intense. The discovery of a new body, which might caress us differently, and a new sense of freedom would be at the root of this fantasy. Quick sex, a "quickie" with no strings attached, can prove attractive. However, this fantasy is purely sexual and does not lessen desire for one's partner.

Women's fantasies
It may seem cliché to say that women have fantasies related to romance, but that does indeed appear to be the case. In fact, according to statistics, women are more likely to dream of tenderness, passionate declarations of love, a room full of candles, and intoxicating music. However, romance is not the only thing that dominates women's fantasies. You may be surprised to learn that many of them also imagine themselves in a sexual relationship with several men. The feeling of power experienced by the woman in this situation may explain its popularity. Women also reportedly dream more often of submission à la "50 Shades of Grey." Being dominated, with their hands tied and their eyes blindfolded, would top the list of women's fantasies. Does that surprise you?

Men's fantasies
Men generally talk more openly about their fantasies. That is why it is not uncommon to hear a man say that he would dream of a threesome with his partner and a friend. Gentlemen, many of you want to engage in voyeurism by watching a "striptease" and having sex with two women, with you as the spectator. We also cannot overlook uniforms. Many men fantasize about their partner dressed as a nurse, flight attendant, or police officer. Pornographic films have a lot to do with this, since they have fueled the male imagination with women wearing uniforms during sex. Is that you?

So, no longer fear judgment, and dare to talk openly about your fantasies with your partner. Together, you can imagine and try new things that will break you out of your established routine and strengthen your relationship.