It is said that fantasies are an open book about ourselves. Some remain buried in the depths of our imagination, while others take shape and finally become reality. Some people feel guilty about having fantasies. However, you should not have such a harsh attitude towards yourself. On the contrary, fantasies can be used to improve certain small imperfections in our relationships with sexuality. They allow us to know ourselves better and better understand our desires. Contrary to popular belief, not all fantasies are hot and very erotic. Some can be more tender and sensual. Everyone is free to dream about it!

There are certain characteristics that men and women have in common when it comes to fantasies. In fact, they help increase sexual desire and reach orgasm more quickly. Among the most common fantasies in couples, we find:

Making love in an unusual place and the adrenaline rush that comes with the fear of getting caught and the transgression of the forbidden is generally one of the most popular fantasies, all sexes combined.

Have sex with a stranger. Not that the couple's relationship is strained, but the emotion and excitement of making love to a stranger can be intense. It is the discovery of a new body, which will perhaps caress us differently and a new feeling of freedom which would be the basis of this fantasy. Rapid sexuality, the “quick one” without a future can be attractive. However, this fantasy is purely sexual and does not lead to a reduction in desire for his or her partner.

Women's fantasies
It may seem cliché to say that women have fantasies related to romance, but that would indeed be the case. Indeed, according to statistics, women dream more of sweetness, of a torrid declaration of love, of candles filling the room and intoxicating music. On the other hand, it is not only romanticism that predominates in women's fantasies. You may be surprised to learn that many of them also imagine themselves in a sexual relationship with several men. The feeling of power experienced by the woman in this situation would explain her popularity. Women would also dream of more submission a la “50 Shades of Grey”. Being dominated, hands tied and blindfolded would top the list of female fantasies. Does that surprise you?

Men's fantasies
Men generally talk more openly about their fantasies. This is why it is not uncommon to hear a man say that he would dream of a three-way sexual relationship, with his partner and a friend. Gentlemen, many of you want to practice voyeurism, by attending a “striptease” and a sexual relationship with 2 women, of which you would be the spectator. We can't miss the uniform either. Many men fantasize about their partner dressed as a nurse, flight attendant or policewoman. Pornographic films have a lot to do with it since they have nourished the male imagination of women wearing uniforms during sexual relations. Is this your case?

So, no longer be afraid of judgment, and dare to talk openly about your fantasies with your partner. Together you will be able to imagine and try new things that will take you out of the established routine and solidify your relationship.