It’s no secret that sexting is a widespread way to turn on your partner and enjoy a fulfilling sex life. Whether you’ve been together for a long time or are just starting a relationship, sexy texts are a surefire way to break the routine and keep the spark alive in your relationship. To master the art of sexting, you first need to understand that, as its name suggests, a sext is intended to sexually arouse your partner. So skip the sweet talk. You’re here to get each other excited and build up the tension! In practice, there are several ways to do this: If you’re not shy, you can use a direct sexual message, such as: “I want you right now!”, “I want to feel you inside me”, “I want to take your penis in my mouth” or “I want to hear you come”. If you’re more reserved or want to build up the tension gradually, you can be more suggestive in your texts. Here’s what we suggest: “I want to put my mouth against yours”, then “Press my body against yours” or “Kiss you everywhere”. You can also draw on shared memories and remind your partner of your last intimate moment. You can also accompany your messages with suggestive sexual photos. However, avoid completely nude photos and opt for an erotic approach instead: something sexy showing part of your body, your lingerie, handcuffs or any other naughty object. Finally, it’s also important to follow a few simple rules: always check twice who you’re sending the message to. A mistake can happen so quickly... If you want to send photos, do so only if you trust your partner. You want to avoid your breasts or buttocks ending up on the internet. Never use your work phone. You never know whose hands it might fall into! And delete your history if you lend your phone to friends or someone in your family. Be careful not to use words and/or phrases that are too crude (unless your partner explicitly asks for them). You could scare the recipient and produce the opposite of the intended effect. If the timing is bad and you can see that your partner isn’t receptive, avoid insisting. Sometimes you have to know when to let it go. N.B. Sexting is an activity reserved exclusively for adults aged 18 and over and requires the consent of both partners.