Often at the top of men's fantasy lists, the famous threesome involving two women and one man is not for every couple.
That said, it is becoming increasingly common in today's sexuality. It can seem very tempting and can be highly exciting... However, you need to make sure your relationship is ready in order to avoid any awkwardness that could prove disastrous, or even fatal, for your relationship.
The first question to ask yourself is: why?
Why does your couple want to have this experience?
If it is to:
- spice up your sex life
- have new experiences together
- simply enjoy it
We say yes!
However, it is essential that the couple discuss it beforehand in order to understand each other's expectations and limits. Make sure your partner is ready to take action and that this is not merely a fantasy for them. For some people, fantasies are even more exciting than reality, than actually acting on them!
“Do we have someone in mind that we would like to do this with?”
“In what context do we want to have this experience?”
Your answers and motivations need to be compatible with those of your partner.
Communication, curiosity, openness, trust (in yourself and your partner), adaptability, respect. These are qualities that are more than essential to the success of your experience.
On the other hand, if it is to:
- please your boyfriend
- try to save your failing relationship
We strongly suggest that you don't!
You need to make sure that your relationship is sexually fulfilling and built on excellent communication before having this experience. The famous threesome involves its share of risks. First, the risk of being disappointed by the experience. Second, the risk that the “guest” will be or become your partner's favorite, especially if your relationship is not solid.
Sharing is not for everyone! For people who tend to be jealous, anxious, and lack self-confidence, it should be avoided. Some people experience so many negative emotions during sex that they are unable to get past them afterward. They retain a bitter feeling about the experience and lose confidence in their partner. For anxious people, it may be better to try a threesome once they are single or as a “guest.”
Despite all the precautions to take, the ideal situation for this experience remains spontaneity and letting go. You cannot predict your emotions and reactions during sex. Remain attentive to your own limits, your partner's limits, and those of the third person. They are also a human being, even if they may be a complete stranger to you. Do not disregard their feelings and preferences.
Obviously, there is no need to advise you to protect yourselves in order to prevent the transmission of STIs and/or an unwanted pregnancy.
Did you try the experience and did everything go well? Great!
It's up to you to decide whether you want there to be a next time...
