Almost everyone can claim to have pretended at some point in their life. Regardless of the reason or circumstances, we have all acted this way in an effort to please and avoid disappointing someone. As bad as this habit may be, it unfortunately occurs quite frequently in bed. In fact, one partner may pretend to feel pleasure in bed more often than we think. Why do we act this way? This month, Sexxx Plus has chosen to analyze orgasm simulation for you. Here is a closer look at this widespread trend in our society.
Why do we fake it?
The reasons that drive us to fake an orgasm are relatively numerous and raise many questions about the subject. Do we put too much pressure on ourselves to perform in bed? Do we want to please at all costs, to the point of faking an orgasm so we do not disappoint our partner?

Over the past year, one in four women stated that they had not had an orgasm during their most recent sexual encounter. Rather than criticizing their partner’s performance, they indicated that their minds are often too preoccupied, causing them to lose concentration while making love. Thinking about work, the children’s activities, or housework are, in fact, thoughts that are best pushed out of your mind so you can enjoy the present moment and your partner’s caresses.
When sexual intercourse is well underway and you do not feel that an orgasm is about to happen, you may then be inclined to fake it. This is often done so as not to disappoint your partner, who might question themselves to the point of feeling inadequate in bed. Faking an orgasm during sexual intercourse is occasionally done by 60% of women and 25% of men.
Sexologists say that faking it should not become part of your usual habits in bed, since it can lead your partner in the wrong direction. In fact, if your partner believes they have succeeded in making you orgasm with their caresses, they will think that those particular caresses were effective and will tend to repeat them when you make love. It is therefore preferable to be honest and admit that you will not be able to reach orgasm during that sexual encounter.

How do we fake it?
Once we realize that we will not be able to reach orgasm, whatever the reason, we quickly start acting in order to bring the sexual encounter to an end.

As soon as your partner has orgasmed, or is about to, the performance begins. Most of the time, your breathing will become intense and noisy, and you will make a few convincing sounds and moans. You will increase the pace of movements such as thrusting, part your lips, and achieve, in a completely simulated way, the desired orgasm that is not coming. Afterwards, since you will be drained of energy, you will let yourself fall limply onto the bed and enter your post-sexual-encounter recovery phase.

Although this technique allows you to avoid having to justify yourself to your partner and prevents them from questioning their performance, it should be used with great restraint. Be careful not to make a habit of faking orgasms and lose sight of the main reason for sexual intimacy in a couple… growing closer and connecting with each other!

The next time you are tempted to fake an orgasm, remember that sex toys exist and that there are many ways to use them. If your partner has already reached orgasm, no problem, because these little pleasure objects can be used very well by both of you! https://sexxxplus.com/fr/plus-pour-elle/objets-de-plaisir/stimulation-externe